Hello, lovely ladies. My name is Charlotte Zablocki, and I am an Empowerment Coach for women. Today, we are going to talk about why we can sometimes feel invisible in life and what we can do about it. Feeling invisible can be challenging, especially in relationships or daily life. It’s like you’re there, but no one sees you. But why do you feel this way? Let’s break it down.
The Cause of Feeling Invisible
Often, feeling invisible starts with emotional neglect in childhood. When we’re kids, we need our parents to show us they see who we are. They should notice and value our feelings, thoughts, and individuality.
However, if parents only pay attention to what we do rather than who we are, we learn that we must earn love through actions and people-pleasing. Instead of being loved unconditionally, we must perform to get love.
Growing up like this makes us feel invisible because our true selves—our existence, emotions, and individuality—are never acknowledged.
How to Stop Feeling Invisible
If you can relate to this, the good news is you can change how you feel. However, it will take effort and patience. It’s a journey of changing how you see yourself. Instead of waiting for others to notice you, focus on what you need to feel seen. Here’s how you can start:
- Acknowledge Your Feelings:
- The first step is to recognise and accept that you feel invisible. It’s okay to have these feelings; acknowledging them is essential to the process.
- Understand the Root Cause:
- Think about why you might feel this way. Reflect on your childhood and any experiences that might have made you feel unnoticed. Understanding the root cause can help you address these feelings more effectively.
- Reflect on Your Self-Worth:
- Start valuing yourself for who you are, not just what you do. Remind yourself that you deserve love and appreciation simply for being you. Write down positive affirmations and repeat them daily.
- Express Yourself:
- Find ways to express your true self. This could be through art, writing, or talking to a friend. Letting your true self shine can help you feel more visible and authentic.
- Seek Support:
- It can be helpful to talk to someone you trust about your feelings. Sharing your experiences can make you feel heard and understood. Consider seeking help from a counsellor or an empowerment coach who can guide you through this journey.
- Set Boundaries:
- Learn to set boundaries with people who make you feel invisible. It’s essential to surround yourself with those who appreciate and respect you.
- Engage in Activities You Love:
- Doing things you enjoy can help you connect with yourself and others. Whether it’s a hobby, sport, or volunteering, engaging in activities that bring you joy can boost your self-esteem.
- Practice Self-Care:
- Take care of your physical and emotional well-being. This includes eating healthy, exercising, getting enough sleep, and relaxing and unwinding.
- Build Healthy Relationships:
- Focus on building relationships with people who truly see and appreciate you. These connections can help you feel more valued and visible.
- Celebrate Your Achievements:
- Celebrate your successes, no matter how small. Recognising your accomplishments can boost your confidence and help you feel more visible.
Remember, this journey is about finding and appreciating your true self. Taking these steps makes you feel more seen and valued in your life.
Step 1: Stop Hiding
You might have learned to hide parts of yourself if you felt invisible as a child. Start by asking yourself:
- When did I start hiding parts of myself?
- What parts did I hide in childhood?
- What am I hiding now?
- What fears stop me from being my true self?
- What parts of me do I avoid or reject?
Answering these questions helps you reclaim your power and start being visible.
Step 2: Heal Your Inner Child
Find a picture of yourself from when you were a child. Look at it regularly and think about who you were back then. Allow yourself to feel any emotions that come up. Validate and acknowledge your inner child with affirmations like:
- Your feelings matter to me.
- You deserve love and affection.
- It’s not your fault.
- We will heal together.
Recognise your feelings of invisibility as accurate and start reconnecting with yourself.
Step 3: Connect with Your Physical Self
Reconnect with your body through touch and affirmations. Neglect can make us disconnect from our physical selves. Remind yourself that you deserve to take up space in the world. You can do this by:
- Giving yourself hugs
- Gently touching your face and arms
- Using positive affirmations about your body
Step 4: Re-train Your Brain
Help your brain notice real connections and times when you are indeed seen. If you grew up with neglect, your brain might focus more on negative experiences. Instead, broaden your awareness to include moments of connection and healthier relationships. This helps reduce the feeling of being invisible.
Sometimes, we might think, “If this person loves me, then I am worthy.” This mindset can block out positive connections with others. Remember, feeling invisible to one person doesn’t mean you’re invisible to everyone. Focus on those who truly see and appreciate you.
Honour your feelings of grief, anger, or sadness and then gravitate toward people who reciprocate your connection.
Remember, You Are Worthy
You deserve love, appreciation, and support. Reflecting this back to yourself helps you decide how you want to be treated by others. Here are some things to keep in mind:
- You are important.
- Your feelings are valid.
- You don’t need to earn love; you deserve it just by being you.
- It’s okay to take up space and be seen.
How an Empowerment Coach Can Help
An empowerment coach can significantly support you as you work through these feelings of invisibility. They can help you by:
- Providing Guidance: Coaches can help you understand the root causes of your feelings and guide you through healing.
- Offering Support: Having someone who listens and validates your experiences can be incredibly comforting.
- Setting Goals: Coaches help you set incredible personal goals and break them into achievable chunks, empowering you to take control of your life.
- Building Confidence: They can assist in building your self-esteem and confidence, helping you feel more visible and valued.
- Developing Strategies: Coaches can provide practical strategies to help you connect meaningfully with your true self and others.
Thank you for taking the time to read about feeling invisible and how to overcome it. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. You are worthy of love and recognition just as you are. If you need more support, consider contacting me, and I can help you navigate this path.
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Much love,
Charlotte
